My unmarried RN daughter, 57, has the major responsibility for the care of her father, my ex of almost 50 years. Her brother was given financial responsibility, and she says he is taking money for his own use, and that he was always double-dipping between me and my ex to give him money for dental implants, school and college expenses for his two daughters. She refused to come to Thanksgiving dinner since he and his family, plus and out of town niece and husband would be there. I then found out she has been asked to resign from her job as she was missing too much to look after her father....but she didn't tell me about it, her brother did. He said he had full time job and family so couldn't visit his dad much, and says he doesn't always recognize him when he is there. She says her father and I always liked her brother best and still do, when he is a no-good scumbag who didn't help change diapers, etc. before their father went to nursing home. Now my son has asked me for money to send his 15 year old to a summer college prep program, otherwise she won't go. He probably does live beyond his means, but I want my granddaughter to have this experience!