Follow
Share

I am 58 and live with my aunt who has had a stroke, she is 80. She also has children who help some but not day to day. I am the maid, chef, gardener etc. She has 7 children who are involved on different levels, some come around and are more involved than others. I cannot manage a full time job and do what is expected or needed from me. I receive "room & board", but no salary. Therefore it is very difficult for me to keep my finances current. I actually pay her a small amount of rent when I have a full time job. She insists that I pay rent so that her children will not think I am a "free-loader". REALLY? I have tried to approach this subject very diplomatically with her children. There answer is what ever mom says. I honestly know that her children have no idea at how demanding she can be. I guess my question is: Does your organization recommend or have a person that can negotiate on the behalf of the care giver?

This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
Agreed. Move out. There's a big difference between freeloading and caregiving. Keep track of the hours you spend working for her and multiply that by the going rate. Figure $15-20/hr. Then subtract your portion of the rent/utilities/food and see what you come up with.
Helpful Answer (1)
Report

I agree with ba8alou
Helpful Answer (1)
Report

Tell the children that you are looking into moving out. Refer them to a home care agency that will provide three shifts of workers to care for their mom. they will be astonished by the price tag. Do it. Tomorrow.
Helpful Answer (3)
Report

This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.