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Twopupsmom and living south - seriously?
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Michael, I'm going to be very blunt here, and perhaps offend someone, but you asked a legitimate question.

Skim through the posts that have so many answers and you'll find emotional issues, sometimes very, very emotional issues. These kinds of issues literally reach out and grab posters who try to help solve other people's problems.

Some of the issues seem to be fictitious or doubtfully true, and those posts often go on and on.

Some of the original posts take circuitous turns with their claims, and the responses follow those turns. Some are just toying with posters, playing games.

But others express legitimate emotional, traumatic issues that reflect extreme distress. It's natural that posters try to help others in these kinds of severe situations.

The innate female desire to help seems to be at play here; post a sob story and you'll get more responses than if you asked for specific information.
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twopupsmom and LivingSouth. I have been on here a few years. I have posted 12,000 answers and comments. You do not have to be female to get an answer from me. You don't have to be part of the in crowd (whatever that might be). I have developed cyber relationships with some of posters here. Often they are people with whom I agree a lot, but I don't think there is anyone here that I don't sometimes disagree with. And I certainly don't limit my answers to only my cyber-friends. (I have never met anyone on here in person.)

So, why would I skip a post without answering or commenting?

1) I didn't see the post. If I'm off a day or so I miss posts.
2) I saw it but I had no answer and/or no experience related to it
3) Other people already gave the same answer I would. I click "helpful" to show I agree

That's it. No mysterious conspiracies. No playing favorites. No discrimination.

I'm sorry that you two have had experiences that have lead you to these theories about why some posts don't get a lot of answers.
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Sometimes we just don't have the answer, this is a community forum after all and we are not experts, only caregivers going through similar experiences.
Sometimes questions are so long and rambling that readers like me can't be bothered trying to sort through it all.
Sometimes the same thing has been asked so often on site that we get weary of providing the same answers over and over, often posters would do well to search the site for similar questions before posting.
Keeping all that in mind, I usually do try to respond to a post that has no replies if I have anything to say at all, sometimes that gets others attention. Don't give up!
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Michael, one of your questions had to do with Medicaid/Med-Cal which sounds like something for the State of California.

Please note those of us here on this website are from around the world.... I am from Virginia, so I would have no knowledge how the Medicaid system works in California.

Each State has their own rules, regulations, and programs. Thus, you would need to wait for someone to answer who is from California and is familiar with the current process. There are times when there is no one on-line during that time frame that is familiar with the process.
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Jessie makes a good point. I'll offer a different, more frank insight: there are some questions that are asked so often, over and over, that sometimes posters get tired of answering them.

I'm also not as kind as Jessie; I don't even bother to read "how do I get paid" or "I hate my siblings" posts.
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Michael, chances are the first or second person who did answer you had the best answer, thus others aren't going to answer with the same answer.

Under each post you will see "thumbs up -"helpful answer", if you see many who agreed with that first or second answer, no need to re-write the answer.

backinblighty, curious how were you able to "delete" your question? This website doesn't have that option or did you ask the Admin to delete the question?

cwillie, I do the same thing, if the post is really really long, with no paragraph breaks, I usually find it too complex and I get lost. Too much for these tired old eyes :P
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Oh, I don't read those, either. I leave those for the people who are newer to the group. I sometimes join in the "I hate my siblings" posts if I'm teed off at one of them. You'll find me most in the "Let's throw Mama from the Train" messages. :-O It certainly helps me to know I am not alone struggling with a difficult parent.
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You can delete a question if you don't post it first, but not afterwards. The only thing that can be deleted is comment under your profile picture that will only show in your newsfeed. Unless someone checks your newsfeed or is following you, they will not see the comment there. This would explain why no one answered.
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Personally, I prefer to hang out with the cheerleaders - or the jocks...just kidding! I pretty much only answers questions where I have some knowledge or experience. You'll never see a VA answer from me, for example - I have zero knowledge in that area. Bump your own question back to the current first page if you'd like people to take another shot at it. Also, seems a lot of questions get asked in the mornings so those are the ones that get pushed back faster. Not a guy thing or a clique thing or a popularity thing - I think everyone here pretty much tries to be as helpful as they possibly can be - were all passengers on the aging/caregiver train.
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