I am power of attorney for my Father who is in residential care.
I am an only child and he made it clear a few years ago that he wished me to inherit his house. His words were "patience it makes me very happy that you have agreed to live in my home when I am gone".
He now thinks he just says I am going home and it will happen.
I started renovations a few months ago as in very bad state. Now living in his home and feel bad for taking it when he's still alive. I know the alternative of it being empty makes no sense. I intended discussing this with him but feel due to his fluctuating bad behaviour I cannot do so. He will think he should just come home and I will look after him. This is not possible. I tried to but he will not listen to anything. Wants his own way and is as difficult as he can be. His own doctor agrees he is impossible in home environment. He wants it all on his terms and refused to engage with outside help. He hates Care facility as does not get his own way. Says rules are crazy cos they don't suit him. The staff can deal with it very well though and tell me he's no bother. Need reassurance.