So, what do we owe our parents and other loved ones?
I think this is a question that people can only answer for themselves and their situation. In may case, I'm not sure that my answer won't change with time. Right now, want to give my mother the support she needs to keep as well as she can and at home for as long as it is feasible. I don't want to count on help from my brothers--one caring for father in law; one recovering from 20 year of caring for chronically ill (and unpleasant) wife; one with serious health issues. The only thing I think I owe my mother companionship (as cheerful as I can make it) if she goes into some sort of institutional care. (Institutional is a neutral word for me; both my daughters were in an orphanage before they came home, but if it is hurtful to others, please let me know a better word or phrase.)