My dad is 91 years old, myself and my husband have been taking care of him for the last 4 years after my mom passed away. I felt it was my duty as his child to move in and take care of him so my brother did not put him in a nursing home. My dad has early stages of dementia he will ask the same question over and over again, he can't remember what he did 10 minutes ago, and trying to have a conversion is pointless, he just doesn't seem to be able to comprehend anything anymore. He is getting worse and worse he is very verbally abusive to my husband he calls him names, and threatens him all the time, he calls my brothers and talks crap about us both, says things that we don't even do. He lies about everything he takes accountabilty for nothing, everything is always someone elses fault and he is the poor victim. I have 2 older brothers one lives here locally and he maybe comes around for a hour once every two or three months and the only reason he does that is because he doesn't want to be cut out of the will, all he cares about is what he's going to get when my dad is gone. My other brother lives out of state and he's pretty well off, he comes down to see my dad a couple times a year and you would think my brother walked on water, my dad worships him, makes me sick! I do everything for my dad and my husband and I are consistantly subjected to his demands and verbal abuse, he has become a very mean old man. It is very hard for me because I was always my daddy's little girl the apple of his eye, I could do no wrong in his eyes. he has become someone that I don't know anymore, I have gotten so tired of it all, I just feel numb, I am getting to the point where I just don't really give a sh** anymore if he goes in a nursing home or not, maybe that's were he should be, because he certainly doesn't appreciate anything myself or my husband do for him. I am to the point I don't even want to be around him anymore, I never thought in all my life I would ever say that, yesterday I just cried and cried and all my dad could say when he saw me crying is that's what you get for staying out until 8 oclock at night and not calling me!! Oh he threatened to kick me out of the house because I got home at 8 oclock at night because I was out christmas shopping. I just don't know what to do anymore, its really starting to affect me and my husband both, I am a good daughter to my dad but all he sees is the negative nothing is ever good enough for him that I do. So I guess I am out here looking for some people that I can talk to that can relate to me and understand what I am going through, if there is anyone else out there that feels like I do and would like someone they can talk to please get back to me I would love to here from you and your story as well, thanks.