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Let's start with I have MS. Not fully blown MS but MS none the less. My boyfriend is in a wheelchair and can not do a lot by himself, needless to say I am in charge of everything. Cooking, Cleaning, shopping, finances, fixing stuff around the house, plus taking care of him, bathing, dressing, sometimes feeding, Medications (mine and his) plus we have 2 dogs, 3 cats, and a fish tank. How do I deal with being solely responsible for everything?

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thank you all for the answers, I am a real animal lover so passing them to someone else is out of the question. My BF is unable to do alot of things, he does not have full control of his hands and shakes really bad. so no cooking or cleaning. he can put his own shirt on, but i have to help with pants and socks. And alot of other bathroom related stuff. not to many friends around to help. He did sign up with the aging and disabilites dept. in the area. They put him on a waiting list. so we wait. they said i was not disabled enough to get on it yet. But i am on disability and have a handicap plaque for my car. go figure.
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Freqflyer, amen, amen, amen!
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I second Geewiz's comments about the pets. I love my cat and I know my girls love their dogs and cats but they are a lot of work and expense. They create so much mess. Just being practical.
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dontknowwhy, I know how you feel as most of the time I feel responsible for everything and my sig other is an able bodied person. Why he limits how much he does around the house is a mystery. He complains his job is so demanding that he needs his days off to recover. Ok, but when do I get to recover???
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Dontknowwhy, I've known quite a few wheelchair-bound people in my life. Some of them were very productive people. I wondered what your bf's physical limitations are that he can't help more. It would help if he would become more involved by doing things like cooking and light cleaning.
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Thank you Francis, Neither one of us have family close by that can help. I guess I just needed to vent.
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My understanding is that stress is NOT good for MS patients! So, try and figure out how to let some of this go! Check out the non-profit organizations in your area. There is one by me that will help with home visits, grocery shopping, there is one that will send someone to do some small chores (grass cutting, small repairs etc), another sends someone that will organize and write out the bills .

Everyone here will scream at this but as a non pet lover, I would reduce that care and responsibility quickly. With all you have on your plate, see if you can't find another home for some of the pets. Just shopping for pet food can be a full time job! Which brings me to shopping from home --- groceries, non perishables etc.

When friends ask if there is anything they can do, let them know ---- have something to ask them. You need HELP
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You may want to look into getting some help and time to yourself. There is a lot of stress involved with caregiving and, as you will read on most posts, can/may jeopardize your health. Does he have family members that can help out/stay with for awhile?
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