
My mom and step-dad lived on their farm for 35years. My step-dad passed away in June 2021 and my step- sisters inherited the farm. Mom got kicked out after she started going up stairs waking them up in the middle of the night telling them that they aren't suposed to be there. Basicly she had been hearing them talking that they are moving. I've talked to my step-sister and no they weren't moving.
Mom won't let it go about going back home. She gets real mad and yells at me cussing me out. I still have to go to the farm and get all her stuff. She says, "you better not do that!" .
I am guessing that StepDad didn't raise you? Nor did you live with his children as a family? That he owned the farm before he married ur Mom? Only way he could have left it to his kids. If Mom is on the deed, half the house is hers and she has a right to live there.
But the problem is her wanting to go back and she can't. And with the Dementia, she can't be reasoned with. All you can do is redirect her. Which is hard. Or tell her you'll see about it later, your busy now and pray she forgets. I would just go and get the rest of her stuff. Don't say anything. Store it where she doesn't see it.
I keep forgetting that with mother. She can't 'track' a conversation any more and I keep thinking she can.
I stay to visit only as long as I can stand it, then I leave. She doesn't usually even remember I've been there.
Both of your parents are step-parents to you? What about your step-sisters? Do they not think they have some responsibility for mom's care?
They now live in her home that she was in up until a few months ago and now it's theirs and she can go pound sand?
She might have dementia, but damn right you shouldn't go and get the rest of her stuff. You should go talk them and maybe a lawyer.