So I'm sitting here this morning drinking my coffee and thinking a lot, possibly too much...

I wish I could gather all of you up and have you over for coffee today, all day!

Sending hugs your way! It doesn’t get any easier. Please try to find some time for you. You have been running on empty and need to refuel.

Mine hasn’t been diagnosed with it yet but I’ve caught myself on here every day obsessing if its THAT TIME. Stay on the forum, get all the advice you can and prepare yourself for the fact that you alone are not going to be able to do this by yourself. Just stick close and never feel alone or guilty. You aren’t either of those. Do the best you can until you can’t. It’s not accepting defeat, it’s making certain all her needs are met and that takes a village. Bless you, and give yourself some credit.

As a caregiver, you are the one who makes the decisions, It is not the patient who dictates whether or not they will go back. My husband came to see me and when it was time to go back to hospice he grabbed the door casings and was not going to go. I talked to him, Told him he had to go back to hospice, there was no room for him where I was having to be and that if he didn't go back he would never be allowed to come and see me again. He kept refusing. Finally, the gentleman who had driven him over to see me asked me what should he do. I said scoop him up like you would a child,(at this point he weighed only 110 lbs. and the guy who brought him over was 6ft, 5 inches and very strong). He picked him up, put him on the passenger seat, belted him and and away they went to hospice. When the reached As several drs. told me, you have to be the person in charge. As a caregiver, you need time for yourself and your husband, I would suggest talking to her dr. and the staff at the nursing home and trying again. Tell her things have changed and your health needs attention right now and you need her to go back to the facility for awhile. Don't give time schedules, don't ever bring her home again but do make sure you visit her on a regular basis. Good luck. You are doing an admirable job and it is not easy. Best to you.

NHWM: Thank you! God bless you.

Countrygal55: Edit - You're a GREAT person!

NNWM: Thank you again.