It’s been a while since we posted but have had a lot happen and have been caring for my moms sister who has been living with us since right after COVID She’s in her 90s but the last few weeks she seems to have declined fairly quickly. She sleeps at least 18+ hrs a day and even when she is up she usually falls asleep sitting in a chair. We found her meds thrown in different places in the house so know she hasn’t been taking them for at least 3 months maybe longer from what we can tell and she now refuses to leave the house to go to the Dr etc. We tried telling her she will need to see the Dr to get her scripts refilled but she refuses and said she doesn’t care anymore. She doesn’t bathe but maybe once a month and it just gets frustrating arguing or trying to reason with her to do anything. She has a daughter but she’s basically no where to be found and has nothing to do with her. At this point I’m guessing she will need to be placed in a NH or skilled nursing facility where she can be better cared for but we do not have any kind of official paperwork that we can make any decisions for her or on her behalf I’m looking into calling the area agency on aging next week after the holidays are over but not sure if they can help or where to even start.
And even if she eventually gets place in a facility, hospice will continue caring for her their as well. I would definitely be looking into getting them on board.
The fact that she's sleeping so much can certainly be a sign that her body is tired and is getting ready to transition from this world to the next. My husband slept about 18-20 hours for about the last 6 months of his life.
I wish you well in getting the proper care for your Aunt.
We need to get things in some sort of order as I will be returning to full time work shortly and have been the one home with her. Seems like we are getting no where this week as many people are either not working or just short staffed as still waiting for a return phone call from the area agency on aging and I’ve been advised by others they do not move very quickly ?
Thanks for your input
We are afraid to leave her alone at hone for any length of time for fear of what will happen while we are gone but at the same time we still have high school aged children who we also need to tend do
Just seen sort of stuck between a rock and a hard place :(
unfortunately this happens too.
and secretly thinking/or planning suicide. (thoughts which are totally understandable, where the pain/suffering/old age is unbearable).
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what i see, is that if/when it is depression, that can really change from day to day (even for any individual in the world, any age) -- suddenly something wonderful happens and of course the person wants to live!
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wishing us, and our LOS, as much happiness and joy and love as possible!!!
joy of life. :)
bundle of joy :)