Before his serious mental decline, my husband was smoking 2-3 cigarettes a day. Now that his dementia has become severe, I talked with his cardiologist about his smoking, not just in terms of the health issues, but for safety concerns. The doctor said that smoking is a battle, that at age 83, I should not take on. However, my husband is asking for cigarettes at least every half hour and insists each time that I have never given him any that day. I have tried giving him 3 in the morning, but when I do, he smokes them within an hour, then wants more, saying he's never had any and gets very agitated if I try to delay giving more. If I give him the pack, then he hides it and of course insists that I either stole it or never gave it to him. I truly understand that these are common behaviors, but I have COPD and use inhalers on a regular basis. He normally smokes out on our patio - we set up a heater for him. But lately he has been waiting until I leave the room and then lighting up. Last night after he was in bed, I smelled smoke and he was sitting on the side of the bed smoking. I was angry, yes, and I know I did not handle it well, but later, after he was asleep, I came in and retrieved the lighter and checked pockets, etc. for other cigarettes and lighters. Today has been a particularly obsessive day. I am asking for suggestions on how I can best at least control the safety issue. I currently have no way to control his behavior of if we are out of cigarettes, him walking out the door and heading for a store to buy more. I do keep about ten dollars in his wallet to help him feel that he at least has some spending money. Help!