My Grandma died yesterday at age 103. I had not seen or talked to her in years. After my parents got divorced, she treated my sister and I bad and she was awful to my mom. I made the decision then, not to deal with her. At that time, I told her to give her annual christmas check to a charity, I didnt want it and she did for the last 20 years.
Now comes the difficult part, my grandfather who died several years ago completely disowned my father because of the divorce and the way we were treated. I figured that since my dad was present in her life and she forgave him the will would have been changed and he would get his inheiritance. Well, i guess that was the one thing she refused to do was change my grandfathers last wishes. In my personal opinion, my aunt should get everything for caring for her for the last 15 or so years but my grandma always favored the boys.
I do not want to go to the funeral. There has been very limited interaction between my sister and I and my fathers family and my grandfathers funeral was just uncomfortable, forced and fake. Neither of us want to go because of it. My sister feels obligated to go but feels she will be viewed as only being there for the inheritance which she doesnt want.
Has anyone every skipped a funeral without regretting it in the future? Or am I obligated in anyway to go to the funeral?