Skilled nursing for rehab supposed to be a few days, they want to keep him over a month. Any advice?

Irishboy, sorry if it sounded like he was alone. My first post was sent out as a cry for help and I was trying not to be too long-winded. Being a POA can be all consuming. My sister is not the POA, too many details to get into as to why she is not. Since she takes him to the doctors and develops the relationships, she is privy to everything . We work as a team. Our issue is with the hospitalizations, where we are not told what is going on. For example, at one hospitalization, a doctor called me to get "permission" to do a minor surgical procedure. When I asked the nurse when it would be done, the nurse said it was done before the doctor ever called me. I just discovered the hospitals have portals and now so do some doctors offices. If they keep them up to date, the portals actually have a lot of information about the patient's health. I encourage all of you to use this information when the hospitals casually give you the passwords. I learned more from reading the records about his actual diagnoses. This was very helpful in trying to get him out of the awful rehab. Knowledge is powerful.

I have learned how to be a more outspoken advocate for my father. And there is a learning curve. So you just have to keep pushing. good luck SRL 1159.

I have to TG that I have an RN in the family and worked for RNs. My daughter is second on the POA so is privy to Moms records and understands them.

You can remove him anytime you want try bringing him home and get someone like holy redeemer in home there wonderful.

They never keep them just for a few days. They don't even do evals until the patient's been there for 8 days, then they do their care plan. We were told none of this. The hospital actually lied to us and to them about the whole process and it was their decision to take her out of town for no family contact. POA does no one any good if you aren't right there with him. I suggest taking the time to be there so you can see what's going on. No one is bound to rehab, they are free to leave at any given moment, something else they won't tell you.

Well SpiritGate if your sister is good enough to cart dad around and be the adult child who lives locally and bears the brunt of the responsibility, they should have the POA, not you.

As Grace27 said having POA does you no good when you're trying to do this long distance. You need to get on a plane and get down to FL for a visit or let your sister who is there run the show.

There is no such as long distance caregiving.