Mom has Alz, but we don't know what stage. Still lives on her own and my sister and I take her out every other day, phone every day. Sister has more caregiving duties than I; she is closer to Mom (not in proximity, every other way), but we're both still frazzled. Nutshell: Mom is/has always been EXTREMELY stubborn and difficult, hates people in general, hates doctors/medications, has dental issues which limit her diet extremely, all the garbage that goes with that. We know the disease is progressing rapidly. New development: I've just received a nasty diagnosis of my own (not fatal...yet, but chronic) I have to deal with. I'm not telling Sister; she can't handle it. My "big girl panties" are still at the dry cleaner - I feel like I can't make decisions because I'm afraid of Mom's reactions. Though I'm the tough one; Sister is the nice one. We know something needs to happen with Mom soon. Just can't decide what. Analysis paralysis and tendency to procrastinate. Mom's hip broke Oct 2016 and two 30-day stays (first, skilled nursing, then assisted living) convinces us both she will succumb to depression within 6 months. I'm about ready to accept that outcome. To those who say she will adjust, no, she won't. She didn't even come close in the second 30-day stay. She is 84. I just want to wash my hands of this whole mess. This is mostly a vent/rant, I guess. We've received the typical advice which simply isn't possible/helpful/useful though well intentioned. Luckily, Sister and I are mostly in sync in all decisions. I fear I'm going to have to make the tough calls, take the tough actions; I don't know that I'm strong enough.