My father has dementia. I live with him and have POA and HPOA. My 2 sisters don't do anything to help me but want to start trouble all the time. My oldest sister had the rehab center where my father currently is recovering from a hospital stay remove my name as emergency contact and replace it with hers and my cousin. I gave the facility the paperwork from the attorney when my father arrived. I am POA and HPOA with another person and we get along great when it comes to caring for my father. I already left my home with my sons and my husband to live with my father. Neither of them have children at home and are not married. I don't know what to do.
Unless your sisters start paying your bills or your father's bills pay your sisters no mind.
Next time the drama starts tell them to "kiss my A-- twice" and just end it.
You need to givevthe facility copies. Inform them that you are the only one and other POA they talk to.
You can also have the attorney suggest THEY come and take care of dad on their own in his home while you go back to your family, if they are unhappy with the way you are caring for dad.
I'll bet that shuts them up right away.
I worked and still had a teenager at home , who did not drive yet . Sister thought It was fine that I would have to leave work to take parents to doctors , swing by the high school to pick up my daughter after play rehearsal , on the way back .
Meanwhile my parents still in my car were asking “ what’s for dinner? ”.
My sister would also literally laugh at me and say she was glad I was the one “ stuck taking care of them “.
This sister also insisted on a phone call each night while Dad was dying . A phone chain I set up wasn’t good enough , I told her drive the 3 hours and see for herself.
Needless to say I don’t speak to this sister
an attorney like already suggested.
My sister tried this multiple times as well , I finally told her if she tried it again , I would not allow her to visit our parents . It worked .