Since my father passed away 8 months ago, my sisters and I have stepped into care for my 81 year old mother. We each take a extended weekend a month with my son's girlfriend picking up the middle. She has been inactive since her stroke 3 years ago, but has full mobility. She is a heavy smoker, drinks several glasses of wine a night and takes an extrodinary amount of ambien and advil pm's to sleep @ night. We are trying to make changes for her own good (like having her excercise by walking) and being more self-suffiecient. She can probably stay alone at times if she did and of course cut back on the Ambien so she isn't falling at night. She seems to think that all we do is scold her for her undesirable behavior. Im attempted to put her into assisted living which she doesn't want to go, but I think they'll kick her out. She gets up a couple times a night on the Ambien to smoke. Should we have a care-giver come in and evaluate her for a week before we make that step?