I live in NH ..Where we are all originally from.. My sister re-married and moved to Texas..My Mother lived with me for 15 years, up to the age of 85. She is now living in a town house that my brother-in law inherited from his deceased ex-wife and he is charging her $700 a month. They are also now in control of my mother's total income of approx. $2000.00 a month.
When she lived with me, she lived in a mother-in-law apartment hat she paid to have built. I did ask her for what ever she could afford per month to help off set the cost of heating fuel and her use of electricity used to run the 220 water pump (she also did all her laundry at my home). She gave up her driver's license 10 years earlier at the age of 74 so I was responsible for driving her most places. 2 years prior to her moving to Texas my sister did come to NH for the summer and part of the winter to help her living with her in her apt. She too did her laundry and took showers increasing my Power and fuel bill somewhat.
I never said anything about that as she is family and helping. I would also like to add that while she had a rent free situation, she also took time to visit her other two children and grand children..along with stays at her camp in Maine, enjoying somewhat of a vacation.
My brother-in-law has made several comments that I don't do enough, despite the fact that I have driven 2500 miles (twice) two different years to stay with my Mom while they went on a 3 week cruise and a 3 week cross country trip.
My brother-in-law continues to complain that I don't do enough. I am on a fixed income and trying to get out of debt.
Just would like your input on what you feel about this situation.