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Whoever has the legal authority can have an accounting done of the accounts to make sure where the money was spent. That could be done from anywhere, since the bank records are digitally kept. You can have an accountant review them. And as others suggest, have a professional pay the bills. I'd keep an open mind as if the person who is reporting to you has dementia, the information may be based on delusions and not true. I'd confirm it.

I'm not sure what written contract you are referring to. If this person is doing their job pursuant to a contract in taking care of your mother, then an accounting would be no problem. Once again, something an attorney could review and provide advice. You can do this long distance too. Still, I don't know how this person could be writing check on accounts unless she is a joint account holder or authorized POA.
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Zoey, have someone else handle the finances, such as an Accountant/CPA or a family member who is familiar with same. Then have that person create a set household expense for your Mom.

Who is telling you that your sister is doing all this spending? Is it your Mom telling you these things? I noticed that on your profile you mention your Mom has Alzheimer's/Dementia, and there is a phase where patients will tell stories that aren't true.
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Thank so much for the response. The problem here is that she's living here with my mom and takes care of her and does the bills, laundry and everything else. She doesn't contribute to the house and I do send money to her as well for the running of the house and separately for her expenses as well. I'm unfortunately tied into a contract which I can't break and come back home. Not sure what the best course of action is in this case.
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It's not that easy to take money out of other people's accounts. Who ever has authority should get the records and have an accounting done fast. An attorney may be able to provide some remedies since you are long distance.
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My sister doesn't have POA. All the accounts are funded by me and my uncle. She has been taking out and spending all of the money to the point where she has literally drained out all the money leaving small amounts in. As I live in a different country it is difficult for me to monitor what had been going on as I had complete faith and she'd never done something like this before. She's emptied my account and moms accounts. I had fixed deposits which she has taken the money from and bought a car for her self without asking or informing me. She's been spending and lending money to people I have no idea about. Since she got a new boyfriend 6 months ago she's suddenly changed, is secretive and is blatantly lying to me. I'm at my wits end and don't know what to do.
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Report the crime and she'll do the time.
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Zoey, we need much more information from you to help give you a more accurate answer. Does your Sister have Power of Attorney for whomever these account belong? Is your Sister a full-time caregiver or part-time caregiver for this person? Is Sister being reimbursed for money she spent from her own account, such as paying for caregivers or assisted living?
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