Mother (79) won't stop enabling my 50 year old deadbeat sister. My sister claims she is bi-polar. I'm not sure about the diagnosis but I believe she is using the bi-polar as an exuse for not holding down a job and bleeding moms money dry. Mom won't listen. my sister is on pills and probably crystal meth. Mom tries to cover for her all the time. The sister never helps with my dad who is in home care. Everytime she comes over she takes things from mom, food, toilet paper etc. I have told her to shop for herself moms house is not a store. My mom won't listen to me or my siblings. When we called my sister out on things She cries to my mom that we give her anxiety attacks for confronting her. We found out my mom has paid my sisters rent the last 2 months. We told her she better not this time, we will see. My mom is in total denial or won't level with us for help. We told her we will help, whe won't let us. Mom lives in her own home. The sister doesn't come over to Thanksgiving, or Christmas becuase of "anxiey attacks" I think she just can't face rational adults who know what she is doing. This is a nightmare when it is a family member who plays on my moms vulnerability and emothions. Plot twist, my ststers daugter always comes to my mom for everything too. I almost feel like abandoining the whole thing if I continue to be ignored.