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my sister came to help with caregiver duties of our mom. my sister has been using pain pills and possibly other drugs, but i cant prove it. she was recently released from jail in las vegas for domestic abuse against her daughter. shes been with me and mom for 1 week and already claiming she is better and mom wants to live with her. When she had my Mom a few years ago she ignored her so my mom moved out and got her own place. I just want to know if my mom wont sign legal papers, how can i protect her and keep her in a stable and healthy environment like my home?

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I am sorry for your loss.
It is a good thing to have some better relationship,with your sister now.

Take care of you. *hugs*
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I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom, Angee.
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OMG thank you all for responding. Somehow I completely forgot I reached out here in this forum for help. You all gave your perspectives and were pretty much on point. I own the home and took Mom in back when I noticed she needed some attention and care. Then 1 yr later found that she turned yellow and got jaundice... which is how we found out about the pancreatic cancer. Once she got on medicine it seems that all the lil druggies started popping up. I was able to get my sister out the house. But it totally changed my moms charachter. YES, she was the baby, and I do believe that although Mom knew she was sick her instinct was to care for her daughter cause she knew she needed her. I got thru this ordeal and lost my Mom just 3 months later to be exact. My sister ended up apologizing after and one day even said, "for the record, I never took drugs while I was in Maryland." I knew in my spirit that something was not right early on. But I had not lived around her since we were kids. I am glad I ended up putting both my sister n her daughter out at 2 separate times. Why I let her come 1) I needed help and was overwhelmed, 2) I kept hearing the sister and her daughter had been popping pills but I never knew what to believe since I lived on the east coast n them on the west, and both denied when I asked. Long story short, Never again! Thank you all for being here.
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Get a lawyer NOW and get Guardianship. No way can she win in court, not with her record. If this is mom's house, you also ask for the Judge to remove the sister from the premises. If she threatens you, immediately pursue an order of protection.
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Yes, if mom is competent, she can do anything she wants. And yes, the troublemaker, the jailbird, the junkie, the Poor Sick Thing will suck up every parent's time, money and attention like a desert soaks up a rain shower. Wish your mom good luck and make sure your phone number is on speed dial, you will probably be getting a call sooner or later.
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I have a similar situation and I can tell you from experience that mom wants to live with sister because sister "needs" her. Is sister by any chance the baby? If she is competent, like my mother, there is nothing you can do except sit back and watch sister steal all her money and drugs. Moms protect their babies.
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I agree with Coralgigi - but tape that conversation with your mom even if you don't tell her - then if there is a later problem you will have evidence in case mom is not competent anymore - your sister sounds like a real piece of work & may possibly trying to 'borrow' some of your mom's meds so your mom could be in pain from lower dosages while sis get a buzz
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Talk with your mom privately, make sure that's what she really wants. If that's what she wants, you can certainly "agree" until your sister actually gets her own place. Maybe start with a short term stay, weekends at first, until you are both certain this is the best choice for your mom. You may want to consult an Elder Law Attorney in your area, and definitely bring your mom's doctor in on this. Does she really want to care for Mom or does she just want access to her money and pain pills?
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Yes, why is your sister with living with you? Your mother can go wherever she wants but f you are concerned, I would contact adult protective services.
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Is your mom her own power of attorney? If your sister is not yes. Plus who own or has the lease? That person can evict anyone. Your Mom can or you can. Send her packing ..if I understand right. If it's your moms house and she says she can stay she can unless she gets arrested?
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This sounds like abuse. The sister is stealing pills? Plus she has a record? Call the police after you get proof positive.
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Your mother has cancer? How is her mental state? Unless she is incompetent to manage her own affairs, she can decide where she wants to live. Why would she want to live with the daughter who neglected her in the past, and who was convicted of abusing her child?

And why, incidentally, did you agree to have this sister in your house?

There must be a back story here.
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