Sister is not forthcoming with any details, but is now urgently telling the family, she "can't do this any more and Mom is out of money." Mom flooded the house and caused 20k to 30k in damages. Insurance paid 4 k. Siblings found out about the flood 3 weeks after it happened. Mom can't get in and out of other CG vehicles as they are too tall, no Sunday drives. Meals are brought to her and she eats alone. Mom is frail and pleasantly demented. Incontinent 50% of the time (pullups). The Senior Center is closed due to Covid-19. The younger siblings who also take care of Mom haven't been paid, have more responsibilities and are exhausted. Sister is close to 80 years old herself and her husband has Parkinson's and her eldest son has autism. The perfect trifecta of a storm. I'm leaning towards bringing litigation to force Sister to place Mom (and to pay CGs and NH placement. ) Suggestions?
None of these questions suggest that Sister has been fraudulent – it could all be true, and still be what Sister thought was best. But it does suggest a possible answer for why things have reached this impossible situation.
She is medically incompetent.