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My sister found a "house" that occupies 11 women. The "nurse" lives in a house next door. My mother refused to go. My sister ended up taking her to the police station and had her committed to the psycho ward because she told the police my mother is suicidal. The hospital tells me if I take her out she will never get into a nursing home when she is evaluated. My mother knows the nursing home she wants to go to. My sister has POA. What can I do?

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I just talked to a rep for A Place for Mom yesterday. They only work with people who can be private pay patients, not Medicaid. The local rep did email some other info on resources, like Area on Aging contacts.
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It's called " A Place For Mom". I did not find it helpful.
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Oppps....my last comment was for another's question.
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Google an organization called: 'A Home For Mom' (it's for women AND men). They have an 800 number and their service finding you an appropriate nursing home is free. They are great and work closely with you to meet your stated needs.
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Not much when your sister has POA. Unless you can prove your mother was coerced or forced to sign documents (POA) without her full knowledge, try to talk with your sister and work out a compromise. I had three sisters and a brother who prevented me from seeing our mother while she was alive, but I got a judge involved and he sided with me. Good luck!
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How involved were you before this happened? Is your mother mentally unstable that you know of? Maybe she did become suicidal when told she was going to a nursing home. Is your sister unstable? How long has she taken care of your mom?
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Much depends on the outcome of her evaluation. The Nursing Home she wants to go to may not be equipped for psychiatric patients. If your mother was admitted by court order, you could find yourself behind bars if you "rescue" her from the hospital. Wait, listen to the MD's and do not put yourself in a position where the the courts will issue a restraining order. There will be a discharge planner at the hospital who can offer advice.
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Did your sister have POA over healthcare prior to having mom committed? Do you know the doctors involved in signing her incompetency such that you could privately request a private mtg with her care team to discuss mom and provide a second perspective and tell them about moms wishes?

You may not be POA and may not be able to make the final decision, but at least you will have given the care team another perspective and they may work with your sister to consider if your mom's condition, health, etc.

It may be that mom may need more supervision or skilled care than the group home can provide and in that case it won't be an option.

Work with the care team if you can and explain you just want to make sure mom is safe and the facility will meet her long term care needs such that you won't have to move her twice.

They are probably right that if you forcibly remove her prematurely, a nursing home won't take her without drs release and evaluation first.

You and sis may be at an impass. You may have to get social worker involved. You can also contact an elder care attorney for their advice and acting in moms best interests.

If the group home is cheaper than NH then this may be sisters motivation.....
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