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My sister-in-law is a co-DPOA with my husband for their parents. Their mom and dad had to move to an assisted living home as ordered by APS because they could not take care of themselves. My in-laws told my son he could live there if he just paid the utilities and kept up the lawn care so their house wasn't vacant. My son just moved here from another state. To make my son and his family move out of the house, My sister-in-law didn't tell my husband, but she had their parents sign papers to sell their house. They did not know what they were signing. Is that legal for her to do? Also, we checked their bank account and saw she purchased a COSTCO membership card for herself for $110. with a check from her parent's checking account. She never purchases things there for her parents. Also, she wrote another check from their account for her grass to be mowed. When we told her she shouldn't be spending our parent's money for that, she was upset that we looked into the parent's account. We checked a week later, and she took all the money out of their money market account and lots of money out of their checking account. When my husband approached her, she said she wouldn't tell him where the money went as she didn't trust him!! Isn't this exploitation of her parents finances? Just wondering. My husband has never taken any money from his parents in the 44 years we have been married. Thanks for any responses.

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A few things... caring for a lawn takes more than water. Perhaps the Costco membership was purchased to buy items to 1) care for lawn, 2) care for house by grandson, and 3) buy items for parents living in assisted living. How would you know by looking at a bank account transaction what particular the lawn was mowed?

That being said, I am concerned that whereas both your husband and SIL have POA, your SIL withdrew all the money from the market account and a significant amount from the checking. I'd contact at elder attorney.
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Yes, I think it is exploitation of your parents finances. In addition, when you said your husband approached her about the money, she wouldn't tell him where the money went as she didn't trust him. Sometimes when confronted, immature people will blame the other person, because it takes the focus off of their wrong-doings. Your sister-in-law needs to look at herself, and not blame other people. Possibly you should consult an attorney.
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