A few months ago, my 61 year old SIL learned her cancer has returned. The new tumor is inoperable and she is terminal. The family is saddened beyond belief. All of us stepped up to help her, driving her to appts and hospital stays, staying the night b/c she lives alone, grocery shopping, etc. Last month she decided to stop talking to us, taking our calls, not replying to texts. The only person she will communicate with is her 35 yr old daughter and that's sporadic. SIL is angry and depressed which is to be expected. I've known her almost 50 yrs and was not expecting to be cut off, much less her sibs. You can imagine how my husband feels to not see his sister. I respect her need for privacy,she and I share this trait, but I don't know how far to let this go. She told us if we just showed up at her house, she would call the police...that's how adamant she is and we know she would call. I've participated on AgingCare for years and feel I should I know how to handle this but I'm lost. I've dealt with my family having Alz, heart, kidney and liver disease, Patkinsons, to name a few but never cancer. SIL wants to die at home, we understand, but we honestly had hoped to be with her. I would appreciate any advice or thoughts to share with the family.