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my dad has poa over mom. she is in n/h. my sister had him sign papers at new n/h to move mom. 2 wks later he asked about moms treatment for her cancer and the adm told him she could tell him nothing that he had to speak with his daughter, that he was not poa anymore and that he signed the papers. he tried to explain that he did not read the papers and that his daughter told him it was paperwork for hospital to treat mom. sister says adm explained to him. he was so upset that day she was moved from hospice home to n/h. he did not hear what they said (he does not remember adms telling him he was losing poa) he is totally deaf in one ear and can barely hear out of the other. I do not know what to do to correct this. my parents havelost everything they have paying for med bills. now she is on Medicaid. my father is willing to have him and one other person as poa. obviously, I feel by doing something so underhanded that this should be revoked and having no money for atty I feel helpless. after 52 yrs of marriage he can't even ask anyone about any medical care or anything. just unbelievable that family has to be so mean to each other. this is not the way mom would have wanted. HELP PLEASE THIS IS SO SAD!!!!!!!

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He could have signed something resigning as POA, and/or a new POA that stated sister was primary - but in any event, its certainly does seem something is just not right.
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The only person who can change a POA is the person who gave it to begin with. Your mother gave your dad medical POA for her and she, legally speaking, is the only one who can take it away. I don't know what kind of "papers" your dad signed, but something does not sound right about all of this.
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Enlist the hospital social worker to help you and see if they have what is called "medical-legal partnership" available. I hope there is a way out of this mess that you can actually get done quickly; if dad is competent, he of course could be presented with new papers to sign, with a witness and notary, and if he is not competent it was not appropriate to change this. This could turn very bad very fast from what we have seen of other cases on this website, and my heart goes out to you...it is terrible to be suffering already, and then to have someone who should be a loved one and helping in care and support suddenly turn on you and make your life more demanding and complicated for questionable reasons...

On the other hand, if it was possibly done for a good reason, like Mom needing a POA who can actually manage things better, then Dad could be co-POA and/or sister can grant permission in writing for Dad to get any information he wants.
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Was the new POA document notarized? If not, it may not be a legal document.
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lovingchild .. awww I am so sorry this has happened to your dad, you are right it is very sad. Why would your sister be that cruel? Could you have a consultation with their attorney and tell him what happened because at the very least there should have been another family member present when she took the papers to him, the fact that there was no one else there shows she was being deceptive. I know it is costly but I would definitely seek legal council on this. Let us know what you find out.
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