She can not give me much help as she lives in another town and has to work. She is a private sitter for someone right now. She could move closer and we could alternate between my parents if she could somehow get a little pay for her part in helping them. My Dad has COPD and is on oxygen and my mother has hemachromotosis but does well with it. My dad is very demanding and has driven most of the family away from giving any kind of useful help.