My sister is the primary caregiver. I live abroad. My parents lived in France. My father had a stroke last year and subsequently we moved him to a home back in the UK where he is from and where my sister lives. My mother passed unexpectedly in December. It has been a very tough year for us all. I live in California - I traveled to France to help with our parents several times last year and spent about 2 months total there. I have a young son - so does my sister, and she actually spent double that time in France caring for our parents, being closer. She doesn't work, I do and I'm the primary breadwinner in my family as my husband is out of work. Now that my mother is no longer around and my father has been moved close to my sister, she cannot cope with the paperwork and the daily visits to him - she has depression. She is also very resentful and angry with me for being so far away and recently demanded I move back to the UK to help with our father. I don't know what to do. Moving back to the UK after living in the US for 15 years is no easy task and I don't have the financial stability to be able to make that work. I feel helpless. My father has vascular dementia and is rapidly going downhill. I have suggested to my sister that she needs to take a break and take some time for herself but she says it makes it worse with my father who cries when she doesn't visit. We installed him in a very good care home - but the guilt is overwhelming.