I've read a lot of posts about siblings not helping with aging parents, and I have written some as well. I have noticed that when my sister who lives within 20 minutes driving time of our folks, does visit our folks, it is more special for our folks. Let me explain. Our folks see me soooo much, and in some skewed way it is more "special" when they see their other daughter (my sister) who only visits them about three times a YEAR (mostly on holidays). In addition, it appears as if she is a busy person, since she is never around. The truth is she is not a busy person 99.9 % of the time, but when she is not around (not visiting our folks) it gives the false impression that she is busy. To be more blunt, what does my sister do all day that she cannot pick up the telephone and offer a helping hand to our elderly parents? My sister does not work, (although her husband does), and they have two kids in college in another state, and she clearly has the time. Hmmm, why doesn't she have any free time? Does anyone have any similar stories about lazy siblings? I'd love to hear them!