On Monday, my grandmother had her other knee replaced and was released to a rehab center on Thursday. When we visited her 3 hours after her arrival, the complaints started. The decor sucked, she couldn't have a walker or wheelchair, the TV channel selection sucked (even though there was cable, she wasn't able to watch her precious Fox News), it was full of old people. My response was, "It's not the Ritz, but rehab for old people like you. You gotta wait for tomorrow morning to see if the physical therapist says it's okay to have a wheelchair or walker." Then she goes on to say that she is only staying there 7 days. My mother cuts in saying that if she decides to leave, she has to set up to have nurses help her at least 8 hours a day and we won't be able to come over everyday due to my dad's chemo, maybe once a week for a couple hours. After talking to somebody else, she was horrified that we couldn't take care of her. She was saying that we are abandoning her and that's against the law and we are honor bound to take care of her. I brought her up short and told her that it's only abandonment if we had POA or guardianship (which we don't have) and with how badly we have been treated by her in the past, we are not honor bound to care for her. I asked her if she bothered to help her brother with taking care of her mother. The answer was no, they live in England. My retort was, instead of jetting off to Costa Rica or all these cruises, she could have gone to England to help instead. What makes her think that we are abandoning my grandmother? She is still competent and can make her own desicions.