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You can't force him, you can nudge, push, cajole, and maybe, over time get some progress. If he's like my father, it took years to get him to go to a program offered by the VA that seemed to me like it was incredibly valuable for the blind. He made up all kinds of excuses and is still one of the most stubborn people I know. As one of the posters mentioned, it has to get bad enough, or something bad happens, that they really have no choice.
The problem is, the earlier they accept help, the easier it is to maybe learn some skills and techniques. If they wait, well, every year it just gets harder until, maybe, it doesn't even matter anymore.
I'll be honest and say that my father can really piss me off (you can tell because I come here and write a few posts). Go down this road at your peril.
You probably can't convince him of anything, right? So, depending on what level of care you are currently providing, you can push back and set some boundaries and thereby "force" him into using home care services, etc. As long as he is capable of coordinating something like that on his own. At 80, it's questionable, depending on the person.
Legally blind, FWIW, doesn't mean blind as we think about it. It just means the vision is really bad.
Three choices Dad;
#1. Age in Place - as King of your Castle. To do so, accept your difficulties. Collect your team of hired help & let them in.
#2. Age in Place - as a stubborn tyrant. Have your rights, to do as you please, even if it means you & your home become unsafe.
#3. Age in a Care Home - accept your difficulties & choose to live where help is provided.
So 1 & 3 involve him accepting where he is life - accepting CHANGE. Then he can plot his own course.
2 is NO CHANGE. Usually folk live that way for as long as they can, until a crises happens. Then they often get forced to change, to choose #1 or #3.
Best of luck!!
In the meantime, does he have any neighbors that can at least come and check on him occasionally? And perhaps it might be a good idea to place security cameras in his home that you all can access from your phones, so you can at least check on him when ever you want to.
And other than calling Adult Protective Services to report an elderly person who may be in jeopardy, I don't believe there's much more than you can do, right now. Best wishes.
You can't just place security camera's in his home.