So her sister moved in with her about 10 months after my Dad passed. She is not nice to her at all. She goes through mood swings. Where she is nice to her but then she finds something wrong with everything she does. Same with me. She is a near freak and worried that we are going to ruin something in the house. Everything is this is my house. I do everything for her. She will go nowhere since COVID. She does have a heart condition and a blood disorder. She is very hard of hearing. I cannot agree with my Aunt or that starts a whole big issue. She is very childish. Like you don't care about me you treat her better. She acts jealous of many things. she is poor me. She was never like this prior to my Dad's death
it feels horrible to begin with but it’s very helpful in the long run
do try for an assessment re depression/anxiety
Irritibility is a symptom of depression
If she's 'behaving' you have a little visit at YOUR convenience. When she gets irritable, you say "I'm leaving, I'll see you when you're feeling better'.
If you want to get more involved, then get her evaluated for depression/anxiety. Perhaps that can be treated, I know my MIL takes a 'little white pill' when she's feeling super anxious. It's just a .05 mg of Valium.
Sometimes it's just impossible to have a relationship with people, despite our best intentions.
https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-gray-rock-technique-for-managing-difficult-people#2