Lying, setting me up, gaining access to and using my discount card, anger, defensiveness, tantrums, intimmidation, vengeful behavior, all since 87 year old mother left hospital about 3.5 weeks ago, and behaviors are escalating.
She refused all in home nursing care and physical therapy after hospital stay.
It was my understanding there was not a stroke and no one mentioned dementia.
We live together and I'm single never married. Financially there is mutual dependency which makes this a very devastating situation for me. No siblings.
She said in er that she doesn't need a nurse, she is one ,(not exactly. She hasn't been a nurse in decades) and she told me she doesn't want anyone telling her what to do. She saw pain management doctor last week.
Oh yes, both sides of her family are death by stroke, heart attack, and aortic aneurysm. At 55 I have life long asthma and 2 years ago diagnosis of largely congenital hear disease. There was question on my abnormal ekg from two years ago of possible infarction.
I told her I am not her in home nursing care. She needs help regarding diet, housework, etc. A few days efore the er trip while I was still not working (very bad) she came home from outside soaking wet and face bright red. I told her to take her blood pressure. She refused and said she needed to cool down first.
Last week I encouraged her to take it easy and not do laundry until seeing cardiologist. That's way over 20 lbs and new med she's on could have been prescribed for recovery from heart attack or congestive heart failure. She went ahead and did it as usual while I was at work, increasing her back pain of course.
I feel like I'm done, which could mean I'm moving out.
Best of luck!
My first day on a new job 4 weeks ago mom saw pcp and they took her to er with bp 195/124 pulse 200. Mom was in er overnight and discharged following afternoon. Saw PCP - no UTI, seeing again and also seeing cardiologist for first time. Chest x-ray showed a range of things including tortuous aorta.
This is not all of it and i dont know all that was done in hospital. I understand she was given oxygen and iv meds.
Btw, how does she get access to your cards? If you’re leaving them where she can get to them you might want to consider a safer place to store them.
Honestly, I do not understand this, unless they get themselves so stressed out that they cannot cope.
My neighbors wife is now home again, I visited with her, she seems to be coming down once again.
Perhaps you can talk to her doctor, he might be able to help her.
What was the hospitalization for?