If so, what are some ways to make the transition easy. My mom has been diagnosed with dementia for over 2 years and it recently has progressed rapidly. I am the only one of her two children that care for her and am her DPOA. She moved into an ALF last year and always says she wants to move home, calling moving companies and telling her friends and our cousins that I moved her there against her will. She complains about everything just as she did when she lived alone at home. Her PCP, caregivers, and friends said she is very unsafe to live alone and needs to be in a care facility.
She tells me she is so bored there. However, when I spy on her and notice she goes to all the events, laughs it up with the ladies, etc. The staff says she does great and is seems very happy.
Within the last five months, she has been telling me and the staff very off the wall comments and stories. She always had some strange stories before she moved her, hence the move, but these new events are hallucinations about dead family members visiting her, telling others my dad and her are separated and he lives somewhere else because they don't love each other that way anymore, etc. She constantly hides her purse and jewelry and loudly professes the staff steals them throughout the entire facility. This happens about twice to three times a week for the last month. She is very aggressive and argumentative. She accuses the med techs they aren't giving her the correct meds.
She has been verbally abusive to me and her grandkids to the point where they will not visit her any longer. They cannot handle seeing her in this manner and it really hurts their feelings. They don't understand and it's not fair for them to be in this environment.
I took her to her PCP and she was put on Seroquel. All her other tests, i.e. blood and urine came back normal.
The ALF suggested I place her in their Memory Care unit since she has been so confused lately. I visited it and it seems great with a lot of activities and it is in the same building where she is now but....
The seroquel has been working pretty well. She is calmer, kinder, and much more relaxed.
Is this the right time to move her? Her PCP stated based on her cognitive tests and basic observations mom has the beginning stages of Alzheimer's.
What I am worried about is mom will have a FIT moving her from her two room ALF apartment to a studio in Memory Care. She complains about everything, especially needing a lot of room. (which she doesn't). She cannot afford a larger room in Memory Care. Sometimes I think it's better to do it now to get her accustomed before she progresses with her disease but I am so all over the page, I need some suggestions. How do I do this and is it the right time? Do I lie and say her other apartment needed some repairs and she needs to move into this one for now? Have the facility do it? HELP
The ALF said, before she was put on Seroquel, that she was on the "bubble" of getting booted from their facility from her ongoing behavior. So I know I need to make a decision quick.