I am being support for a good friend of mine, who just lost her mother. She has always been closest with her Dad, who has Alzheimer's and has been diagnosed with it for six years. Though he is good physical condition. He is now requiring around the clock care. Unable to be left alone. My friend's mom passed away two weeks ago and my friend moved in with her Dad to take care of him. Apparently, her younger sister was appointed executor of the will. The will states everything goes to the younger sister and her children. My friend and her brother are not mentioned in the will what so ever. Also, the will is signed by her father. He signed it after having Alzheimers for two years. Doesn't that make his, signing not legal? It is one of those do it yourself wills, notarized. My friend just wants to keep taking care of her Dad. But her sister is planning on putting him in a nursing facility. He has enough money to continue staying in his home and is happy being there with my friend caring for him. Doesn't my friend have any say in these decisions? The younger sister has control over Dad's income and things are not adding up at all. Now my friend is being told by other family members, "Accept that your Dad is going to go into a facility and soon." Also, younger sisters husband told my friend, "Make the food in the house last the rest of the month, were not shopping again." It doesn't make sense, my friend is not being paid to take care of him and she doesn't expect too. She just wants to stay there and take care of him, but she didn't expect to be treated like some outsider and have them not even provide food out of Dad's money. Where there is plenty of money left over after bills are paid to provide food. Doesn't the executor have to show Bookkeeping/Bank statements to other family members showing where Dads money is going? Doesn't my friend have any say in what happens to her Dad? Her Dad has a perfectly good running run, insured car, parked in the driveway. He is not able to drive anymore. But the younger sister has the keys and will not let my friend (A good licensed driver) use the car to take her dad to Church or for anything at all. She has to rely on me for any transportation needs. Granted my friend and her Mom didn't always see eye to eye, but at the end, they had a real meaningful conversation involving forgiveness. Yesterday was the Mother's memorial and it is just awful the way my friend and her son are treated as though they are not part of the family mostly by the sister and her family members. Doesn't my friend have any say in anything? Bottomline is my friend and her Dad, have been very close her entire life. The dad is confused and requires constant reassurance. My friend has moved in to take care of him. He is able to get around pretty good. He doesn't have major health issues. Other than the Alzheimers he is good shape. He talks often about how proud he is with the things he has done with the house. He gets retirement and Social Security. It takes a little under half of his total monthly income to pay the bills to keep the house running, excluding Food and monthly Church ties. (Leaving about $1,650 left over.)This situation is hard to watch. It is clear that my friend and her Dad love each other very much. My friend's intentions are pure, She doesn't expect anything, but room and board. It isn't an easy task caring for a person with Alzheimers by yourself, seven days a week. But what would it hurt to let her use the car to take Dad to Church and go to the store while her adult son watched Dad? I just do not get it.