I love my husband dearly, but having his father in our lives over 40 years is driving me crazy. The last 5 years have been the worst. I dearly would like to have time with husband without Dad. Dad treats us like we are 6 yrs. old. or we are stupid. I am sorry but we have worked all ours live and are now retired. I think we know what we are doing and do not need to be told how or what to do. I have been independent all my life. My parents and foster parents are both gone from us. I have no family really close to me. It always seems to me that my husband can not cut those apron strings. When I complain about it to my husband he defends him. I am tired of everything, being the caretaker, making sure he is well taken care of. I try sending him to senior center so he could talk to people his age. He complains about everyone was picking on him. Husband stopped taking him to senior center. I feel stuck, and want to pack my clothes and leave. I have read a lot of complaints about in laws but no situation like mine. We talked a year ago when Dad was in hospital, and I asked my husband when will our time start. Then used a guilt trip on me, I caved and let his father back into our home. Dad thinks he knows it all, but there is problems, one is his health, dementia, been through cancer treatments, Glaucoma, and many other problems. Dad thinks there is nothing wrong with him and have to tell him over and over again what he can do and not. He will not listen, my husband has put his pills in his hands, in which I do not think is a good thing. Time & time again he has forgotten to take, last time I told husband that he must take it over if Dad forgets one more time.
Any suggestions welcome before I do pack and leave.