I have a sister who was my moms best friend her whole life, but now that mom needs care she has completely washed her hands of her. She doesn't even call her. She doesn't want to know about how she is doing so she doesn't have to care. She comes south for the winter and is only two hours away but doesn't come to visit. It's hard!! Mom has Dementia so she doesn't really get it....She defends her all the time..... I guess I need to just accept. But it's hard!! Caregiver burnout?? Yes!!