My mother is 79 years old with mild to moderate dementia. My brother lives with her - he works outside the house most days. She has 2 dogs one lab and one little high energy dog.
Mom wakes up at night and thinks she has to put the dogs out. She fell once doing so (she did not hurt herself) and one night she put them out and they got skunked.
My siblings want to get rid of them. My point is that they are the one thing that gives her pleasure and purpose. She talks to them and they keep her company.
Mom agrees not to let them out at night but then by the time night comes she has forgotten her promise.
We have moved the sofa in front of the access to the backyard door. I suggested putting a BIG sign on the sofa saying "Do not let the dogs out or they will be taken away"
Neither my sister or brother are what you would call "dog people" but I don't think they understand that the benefit of the dogs out weights the risk of fall.
At least I think they do.
I have also looked in to getting Mom a product called "safehips" - has anyone else ever used them.
I am really frustrated and sad for my Mom. I think if she doesn't have the dogs she will decline faster as she will have no purpose.
I go over to my Moms during the day for 4-5 hours at a time and my sister comes over after work for an hour or two. My brother is there at night. I have another brother who comes on Tuesday and Wednesday nights.
Mom doesn't wander - she is kind - caring - easy to please and does what she is told to do. i.e. takes showers with help, gets dressed on her own, goes out with us to do errands without a fight. I feel like we are very lucky - especially since I've been lurking on the site for a while - my heart goes out to those dealing with difficult parents.
I KNOW we are lucky and want my Mom to have some sense of normal - having her dogs.
This situation may cause a big blowup with the four of us (siblings) two of us think the dogs should stay and two that they should be gone.
Any insight or help is appreciated.