I am taking care of mom 74 no major illnesses. she has osteoarthritis, b/p, diabetes on pills . age related stuff. She has achilles tendon torn and plantar facitatis(spelled wrong) which is healing the podiatrist said . she has a brace that feets inside the shoe. what i am trying to say is this, she is mobile and could be active. But, she has taken to her death bed so to speak. very verbally abusive, sarcastic and more. my brother is 44 and is special needs. he has learning disabilities, speech difficulities, and has partial deafness helped with hearing aids. He is not much of a problem except he 44y.o with 5-14y.o. learning and actions. He causes no problems, doesnt get in trouble. has problems with depression anxiety mood swings. His biggest problem was mom and dad. mostly mom. She tells him what he cannot do and can do etc. Writing this is stressing me out.
My mom was not loving, or attentive to our needs. mom or dad didnt socialize themselves and not us either. We all work and are not in trouble etc. I am the eldest of 4. My sister is 2yrs younger than me and has some medical issues as does her husband, lives next door to mom. my eldest brother is 48 yrs has wife and adult daughter with grandbaby. he works full time and also lives near mom. we all live on the farm we call it. they gave each of us property so we could get a better start. and that leaves my younger brother 44yr. i have already described.
well, i am a widow and have a 32 y.o daughter i raised myself and we are very close and my 11 lb dog named Polli.. My mom begged me to come and take care of her. live with her. i had to build and pay for a bedroom and bathroom in order to stay there .I did and I am staying with her. I am exhausted, stressed in physical pain (from medical problems). I have been with mom full time 8 months now. my sister doesnt call or visit. my brother is always too busy working (he tells mom that's what he is doing). granted he does work a lot but i also know that he spends lots of time with my sis n law family. I need advice how to get them to help share the load. thanks.