My mother moved in with me since my father passed 3 years ago because she emotionally and financially could not live on her own. Since then, there is a slow physical decline with a couple of hospitalizations, etc. Closest sibling lives 45 mins away but she feels she contributes by calling her everyday. Brother in NJ comes once in awhile is great to her but the visits are rare and less than 24 hours. Other brother is just basically nonexistent.... I have my daughters home from college and while they do help with her, I don't think it is fair to unduly burden them at their age. I have a wedding out of state this month and I want to plan a summer vacation with old college friends but when I asked my siblings to consider taking her -- no response.... one says he DOES help!