I am a 58 year old married man living in Port Hueneme, CA (about 60 miles from LA). My wife and I moved here from Chicago about 15 months ago to help care from my 84 and 83 year old parents. My older sister was the primary caregiver at the time and we wanted to be able to help her not have to carry so much of the load. I have an older brother living in New York and a younger sister who lives in West Africa. We all love my parents deeply, but have some deep and very complicated differences and dynamics when it comes to what is best for my parents. To put in the most simple and "bottom line" way, there is a big divide between the two older siblings and the two younger siblings. We are not able at this point to communicate in a healthy way with each other. BIG Issues (including financial issues involving my parents' money and future, as well as differing sibling perspectives on their marital conflicts and relationships with each of their kids) are making it very difficult to navigate relationships within the family, and therefore, are impacting our parents in a negative fashion. My wife, younger sister and I are hoping to get support, insight, encouragement and help from this forum. Though we don't know anyone else at present with the set of dynamics we are facing, we can't believe there AREN'T people out there who have faced something similar.