I don't live in the same state as my 92 yr old mother. She lives alone and I have sisters close by. They take her to the drs, and other appointments. She had home health care briefly but then canceled her as said she did not need her. My mother insists she can care for herself. I go home once a month and stay there with her, there is little to no housecleaning done as she is not able. Her meds are many and does not take correctly, even though they are set up by my sister. Many is the time I call and she is still in bed and not dressed. Her incontinence is obvious and her lack of personal hygene is disturbing. She is easily confused and her meals are hit or miss, my sisters bring stuff but if they do eat with her, it goes in the refrigerator and she eats cereal, if she eats at all. I am at my wits end as do want her to stay in the house as long as possible but so many gaps in her days when she could use help. Again my sisters think they do enough and do not want to upset her by having help come in. She has adequate funds so that is not the problem. Am I doing all I could, the need to do something is paramount to me, and I only want things better for her.