She is dead set against mother going to nursing home due to her getting over 3000.00 a month, fairly lucrative and I believe she just can't bring herself to do it either. That was a good suggestion about bringing her doctor in to talk with her or getting in touch with a local agency of the aging. I will try this. Mother has no advance directive though and my sister thinks she has all the power even though she works and leaves all the caregiving up to her husband and any one else that will do it in family but won't call in anyone who charges over 100.00/day. And no one can sit her who is not in the family.