Sadly, my mom had a fall a couple weeks ago (I live with her) and hit the back of her head. She suffered a brain bleed and has been in and out of hospital and back in Rehab. It is not looking good. I have been estranged from family for a long while, due to my standing up to my brother. The other 6 siblings go along with him and wife as they wine and dine them.
Now, at end of life, my oldest brother who did little for my mom while alive (and is executor) thinks he is man about town. My mom already had a DPOA in place as well as the DNR, which she signed in her doctors office with me 3 years ago. Behind my back at the hosp. they changed it and put my brother and sister in front of me, when I was second in line and sister third.
My brother says he is the spokesman, but is not speaking to me so I do not know what is up with her healthcare. The doc at Rehab will not tell me anything and said he needs to tell me Can I force anything since I have been the caregiver for ages? I cannot believe how sick and cruel siblings can be. My second to the oldest brother never wanted the position, yet I think the oldest is too weak, so he is "helping" him and taking over when he said he did not want it He has definite control issues.
As you can guess, this family is disjointed. The other point is that I live with her and I was told by counselor to be prepared for them to sell the house as soon as she passes and I will get evicted. I have sacrificed job opportunities and my life and yet can I really expect this?
And does anyone know of a 92 year old surviving after a subdural hematoma? I am so sad about my mom and seeing her this way. It hurts so badly, and yet, I do not know how to deal with this or even move on and take care of my own health and future (soon to be 57) when all this junk is going on.