My brother had terminal cancer with brain tumours. When I have gone to visit, he says he is tired and leaves the room. He is at home alone with his wife. I can't tell if he is just trying to keep his act together, is really tired and overwhelmed, thinks I will expect a Grand Conversation. I would love to just be able to sit quietly with him while he sleeps. Should I keep trying?
His wife has commented she thinks he should accept my visits but she is grieving and I don't want to impose this discussion or guilt on her (ie. that she would feel responsible).
I do send regular e-mails but he said he cannot necessarily respond. Are the e-mails intrusive? I want so desperately to do what is right for him!