Mom will be 83 this year. She cooks and burns her food unless she is being watched. She lives alone, has other health issues. Sister refuses to cooperate and tell us anything, just says mom is doing great. Mom is depressed and angry, and our sister seems to be the cause, we feel, because she says things to mom about how bad her siblings are and mom says she has no choice but to accept our sister, because she has no one else. How can we find out how she really is doing, her current health situation? We have contributed to her finances, but we aren't told what her finances are, just that she needs money. Mom just lays around, watches TV, sleeps. Now she doesn't want anyone visiting her. HELP!
The other siblings want to do what we can to help her, but between our sister telling mom negative things about some of her children, mom totally believes her, she's even told mom's doctor I abandoned her, whereas, my sister told me to stay away, she'd doing it all herself.