I am sick about it and not sure what steps I should take. I became Durable POA because after a few incidences with him stealing her money now two years later it is starting again. It started years ago talking her into $1000 here and $1000 there. Loans for his kids cars, school etc. I found out two years ago that 8 years ago he opened numerous credit cards in her name charged them up $154,000 then had her go down and declare bankruptcy.
He also has borrowed $45,000 on the only life insurance she had left. This policy had all 3 siblings as beneficiaries. There was $26,000 left which we were going to use for her burial. In the last year her dementia is starting to get worse. She refuses to see that he is stealing her money. It was all brought out in the open and I figured now that he was caught it would stop. Especially since he is publically known and represents himself as a Christ follower. Well two years later now that moms credit is cleared up he took her out and had her lease a vehicle for him (he has horrible credit. A note from the credit report tip us off and sure enough the loan is in her name, her plates and I think she thinks she cosigned for it. This made me look into the insurance policy and he has taken out more and had the beneficiary changed to him. So now there is no burial money. She owns property but has a $31,000 mortgage and an equity loan on that (brother's of course). This property was suppose to go to my other brother but I do not think he will be able to pay off the loans in order to keep it. When I talk to my mom she gets very mad and accuses us of trying to kick him out of the family. She says she spent the money on trips and house improvements. Sorry but there is nothing that shows that and I paid for the last trip she took.
So do I just walk away and tell my brother the funeral is on him? I have talked to my lawyer about all this when the car issue came up. I am very close to outing him but that would sever ties with the family.