I am in a tough situation and I would like some advice. My mother 88 year old mother lives on her own in her own home in NJ. I currently live out of state, and so does my only sister, she lives in florida, I live in alaska. Our brother who lives about 5 minutes from my mom, is the caretaker because he lives nearby and has taken care of her, when he can. Recently, my mother fell and is now about to be put into assisted living. However, my sister seems to be the one calling all the shots. Even though, she lives in another state and doesn't see my mother except for maybe twice a year. Neither my sister nor my brother have any college, financial, real estate background. I have advanced degrees in business and finance, however, every time, I tell my sister what I think we should do, she either shuts me down, or doesn't bother to listen to what I have to say. I will tell my brother what I think we should do, but right now he can't be bothered with our mom's problems because he is going through a divorce. There is no way I can discuss it openly with my mom because her memory is not well and she is too frail. The only one with any knowledge what to do is myself, but I am ignored and I am always told " you live to far away." Yes, it is true I do live far from NJ. I believe that is an excuse because my sister is coveting her inheritance. I believe and I have proof she already ransacked my moms jewelry and I wouldn't doubt, took my elderly mother to the bank a few times for money for herself. The problem is I have a selfish sister, and a brother that can't be involved any more with his mom, because he is divorcing. I am worried for my mom, as I feel she may be influenced by my sister and I don't know what to do. But, maybe its a little bit of elder abuse. I tried to tell my sister how I feel but she just discounts what I say. My question is: how should I handle my situation? should I just leave it alone and see what happens, or do I call a lawyer? This is a very hard situation and I am at a loss for what to do… I want to make sure my mothers affairs are handled properly and she is not being taken advantage of.