Sibling accusing me of overmedicating Mom. Any advice?

Does your sister live nearby? If so, does she help out with your mother to give you some relief? If she were more actively involved, she may have a better understanding of your mother's needs. Of course, this will depend upon her relationship with you and your mother.

Consult with moms physician on what you dosing. He might have some other suggestions or splitting the dose etc.

You are the primary caregiver and coping with moms needs I presume; sister should mind her own business. If she would like to take care of mom for a few weeks, then tell her you would welcome her help and the respite.

If you know when sis is coming, you could consider delaying moms dose to have mom more alert when sister is visiting if that is the concern. Ask sister to come and have mealtime with mom to help spur moms appetite although I think this has everything to do with the stage of the disease and is normal for the progression -- but maybe sister needs to witness for herself.

Do what you think is best to keep mom calm and comfortable. Talk to your dr about any concerns.

These are all good suggestions. These situations are exactly the reason that I wrote my book Healthcare Handbook for Senior Citizens and Their Families. The Alzheimer's Association is an excellent resource. Hospice is also a good option. There are also resources for caregivers such as respite care through state agencies such as Area Agencies on Aging and Departments of Economic Security.

I agree with the others that it sounds like your sister is wanting to get her mother back. It is easier for her to blame you than the disease. I agree that if she understood more about the disease, she would understand better what is going on. Hospice sounds like a wonderful idea, because they would help with your mother and also helping your sister understand what is happening. She would learn that it isn't your fault.

Get your sister some information about Alzheimers and its progression. She can read on this site or go to the Alzheimer's Association www.alz.org and read the seven stages on their website. She needs to do her homework about the illness her mom has. Good luck...you sound like a wonderful daughter and caregiver.

Use the medicines as prescribed. Late stage Alzheimers includes loss of speech. Failure to eat should be reviewed with the MD. This would represent end stage of the disease and the MD may refer you to Hospice. Your sister is looking for a recovery that isn't going to happen.