Sibling accusing me of overmedicating Mom. Any advice?

Ferris; sometimes two anti-depressants are better than one; my mom is on Lexapro and Remeron and has been so much calmer and more alert than when she was on Lexapro and Klonopin, the latter to control the anxiety. My husband (post open heart surg) is on an SSRI and Abilify; they seem to be doing him a world of good.

Yes, I do know sometimes a combination of antidepressants will work better for some people, but the sdcaregiver stated her mother was in stage 7 dementia. Most people who have had open heart surgery will become depressed, so whatever combination works for your husband is great. Because the brain is so complex, one never knows what is going to work until one tries different medications. I hope he is feeling much better ba8alou.

Sounds to me like you are doing a great job in a very difficult situation. If your sister gets out of hand, recommend that she talk to mom's doctor for clarification on the medicine. She needs to walk a mile in your shoes and not criticize.

IF siblings care to be in the loop. And not always do they want to because they might actually have to make a commitment in helping out. Speaking from experience for my own mom, until they enter hospice, they do take a lot of meds to keep them somewhat controllable or else they are worse off. And in the meantime, unless your sister wants to get involved, I wouldn't worry about what she thinks.

The first response that people would like to give to a critical sibling is "STFU". Nice to see patient and civil responses. Every caretaker taking care of a parent has the same mindset. It is extremely difficult to view your parent as they are rather than as they were. That is a constant mental battle we are endure. Follow your Dr.'s advice and instructions and all will be OK. Care of your patent is the first concern, sibling opinion is well down the line. Keep them informed, but stay strong. If they wish to take over, all the better. After a short period opinions are guaranteed to change.

Trazodone 100 mg is a fairly stiff dose, you might want to see if she can do with a little less, but, yeah, I sense wishful thinking that its the drug and not the Alzheimer's. I assume you are giving it at bedtime and she is pretty alert during the day?