Shower/ toilet chair refusal; please help me figure this out.
My back is bad, my dad is paralyzed on right side and cannot speak due to stroke. He only says yes or no. I have a wheeled shower chair with padded toilet seat and armrests on it. He refuses it to go to showers. When I asked if it hurt him, he said no I said does it just hurt your pride, he said yes. In shower, transfers have become too much for me alone and I need some way to convince him to get into the shower chair I have available so that we can do his showers without seeming condescending or bossy or aggravated. He lacks speech but is fully understanding of what is being said. Please help me figure this out. He didn’t mind the bench in shower but it was too hard for us to do the transfers with. It’s basically the toilet seat on the shower chair that’s repulsive to him. It’s padded and comfortable, I even offered to put a towel down on top and he pushed the chair away.